With women, or anyone your come across, building rapport is vital to starting any type of relationship. Creating rapport means you’re going beyond casual pleasantries. It means you’ve built a close and harmonious relationship where both people understand each other’s feelings or ideas and communicate smoothly.
Here are ten methods to build rapport with anyone.
1. Set a time constraint
No one want to be trapped in an awkward conversation. Think of all the times someone started a conversation with you that you didn’t want to be a part of. Setting a time constraint let’s someone know the conversation is almost over which allows them to open up.
2. Be aware of your body language
What you’re saying and your body language should match. The easiest way to do this is with a smile. Beyond that you should resist folding your arms and legs, maintain eye contact, and hold your head up high.
3. Speak slowly
Confident, self-assured people speak slowly with purpose. Someone who is nervous will speak quickly and will often ramble. When meeting someone introduce yourself slowly and clearly.
4. Ask for a favor
People like helping others when the request is small. To encourage a connection with others, ask for a small favor.
5. Check your ego
Don’t correct or try to one-up someone. Either of these can bring a conversation to a dead stop. Think about all the times someone has corrected your or tried to one-up you. Did you feel encouraged to continue the conversation? Probably not. If you’re like most people you were looking for a way out.
Attentive listening encourages others to keep talking. And there’s nothing people love more than hearing themselves speak.
7. Ask open-ended questions
Avoid questions with a simple yes or no answer. Ask who, what, why, when, and how. This encourages others to keep talking and makes you appear interested. It also gives you more content to continue asking open-ended questions.
8. Open up
Some people feel self-conscious speaking to new people. In these situations telling them something about yourself will encourage them to talk. Giving someone a piece of personal information creates trust which leads to open communication.
9. Give a gift
When you give someone something they naturally want to reciprocate in return. It doesn’t have to be something big or even something tangible. It’s the thought that matters.
10. Keep it cool
Play it cool by managing your expectations. Having high expectations often leads to disappointment. And disappointment isn’t conducive to building rapport.
For more info on building rapport check out Robin Dreeke’s book It’s Not All About Me: The Top Ten Techniques for Building Quick Rapport with Anyone.